Okay, as much as this pains me to admit, I also am usually disappointed when one of the guys brings his wife, mother, sister you name it. I like being the only chick at the table. And I always deal.
So when his buddies are going to bring their mates, we just chalk up the evening to "fun cards" and don't take things as seriously.
I am humiliated as a female when someone's spouse comes "just to watch" and sits right next to him and proceeds to try to make conversation (with him) while we're playing. That's about as close as I've ever come to b**** slapping someone.
At our games Dealer makes the rules. And my rule is man or woman, "No play, no stay."